Surviving on Courage

“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear—not absence of fear.” Mark Twain

Every day, every hour, and even every minute we are struggling to show courage, to resist fear, to face the stress in our life or around us. People believe that laugh is a good antidote to fear. I received daily jokes about the Coronavirus. At the beginning I found them highly amusing, but after five months I stopped laughing. The statistics listed on TV are heart-wrenching. In addition my husband and I lost four relatives in one month, and I am constantly worried about very dear people working in hospitals.

I don’t want to depress you with sad stories, and I don’t have the heart to relate any funny anecdotes. So I would like to share something I read.

“We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” Virginia Satir

“Hugging is healthy. It helps the immune system, cures depression, reduces stress, and induces sleep. It’s invigorating, rejuvenating and has no unpleasant side effects” — Except in time of CoronaVirus!

“Hugging is nothing less than a miracle drug.” But in time of pandemic we are advised to distance and wear a mask. How can we hug a person in need of a hug? How about replacing hugs with kind words? Think of the people in your life. We all need a virtual hug and words of encouragement.

“Hugging is the ideal gift.” No, sorry! Instead of a hug, give a kind word–You can’t even smile behind your mask!

“Hugging is practically perfect. When we open our hearts and arms we encourage others to do the same.” ~ Charles Faraone

 



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MANAGING STRESS

STRESS MANAGEMENT

I’ve been stressed a lot lately–and it has nothing to do with poor health or situations out of my control. It’s mainly brought about by expecting too much of myself, pushing too hard and creating unnecessary stress in my life. We all have stress — too many bills, not enough hours in a day, work and family responsibilities, and we could go on and on about what causes stress — but how do we take control, and end this needless suffering?

I found a wonderful website that gave some solutions to handling stress and will condense and share some of their invaluable advice. First, there is no ‘one size fits all’ solution, but stress management can teach you healthier ways to cope, and regain control of your lifestyle again – your thoughts, emotions, and how you deal with problems.

We all need to identify our source of stress, and when it comes down to everyday stress it’s not all that easy to do. We need to examine our habits, attitude and excuses, and then take responsibility for the role you play in it. Here are some ideas:

  1. Start a stress journal. See if you can see patterns and common themes that cause your stress in your daily life. How did you feel physically and emotionally? How did you respond, and what did you do to make yourself feel better? If smoking, binging on junk food, drinking, sleeping too much, or angry outbursts are a common occurrence, then read on.
  2. Healthy ways to manage your stress–
  3. Physical activity – exercise releases endorphins that boost your mood – even a short power walk can help. Get up and get moving. Try to incorporate regular exercise into your daily schedule – a half hour a day is best.

Reach out and build relationships – friends, colleagues, volunteer, have lunch with a friend or a walk around the block with your workout buddy. Learn how to say “no.” Know your limits and stick to them. Avoid people who stress you out. Take control of your environment – the TV, traffic, shopping.

Express your feelings instead of keeping a lid on it! Compromise. Manage your time better. Don’t try to control the uncontrollable. Look for the upside. Learn to forgive–and that includes yourself!

Nurture yourself, and take on a positive attitude. Make fun for relaxation and fun. Make a list of healthy ways to relax and recharge. Try to do one or two a day.

Set aside relaxation time, and do something you enjoy each day. Keep your sense of humor, and learn to laugh at yourself or watch something silly like I Love Lucy!

You are not alone, but you can do something to make a difference. I hope this blog helps!

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