Old age can be terrifying for those living alone! #mgtab

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Last year, my ninety-year-old mother-in-law took a bad fall and ended up in the hospital. This woman had been living alone in a little house that she managed with a lot of help from her angelic, next-door neighbor. With me visiting every few days to take her shopping and for lunch treats so she could get out of the house, things were working out…. just.

We had been urging her for years that she might think of looking into choosing a care home because she was going downhill quickly. We suspected mini stokes but being very stubborn and quite foolish, she refused to see the doctor. Laughed and told us it was old age. No doubt, she was right but some of her symptoms were happening overnight and in my mind, old age tends to be a slower—a lot slower. But there was no talking to her when she adamantly refused to listen. All she wanted to do was stay in her own little house until the end. Said if she had to go into one of those old-folks homes, she wouldn’t last a month.

Turns out, that’s not true. After her fall, and her hospital time, she ended up permanently in a wheel chair, and her hands, which had been giving her a lot of trouble, now refused to work. Again, I’m thinking more mini-stokes, which the doctors eventually confirmed. So, we had no choice but to arrange for her to be in a home knowing that way she’d get the proper care.

Since she’d always refused to seriously look at facilities, we were forced to take the first bed available in a residence closest to where we lived. Thankfully, they had a very good reputation and the girls working there were known to be kind and gentle with the people in their care.

As much as our little rebel hated the idea of giving up her independence, she was now forced to depend on others for everything. And all we wanted was for her to be treated with dignity and affection. Thankfully, we did find the right place and I’m happy to say that they celebrated her ninety-first birthday yesterday with her caregivers fussing over her with a present and a song. Her happy tears were heart-wrenching and also satisfying.

I know it wasn’t what she wanted. To be forced into living the way she is now. But sometimes the higher power has a different road for a person to travel than the one they’ve planned. My prayers were always that she could find some happiness in her final years. I’m just glad it seems to be true.

Have any of you faced this situation and has it worked out well for you? I hope so…

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Because my mother-in-law was also a dear friend, I dedicated one of my favorite books to her called Loveable Christmas Angel. She was thrilled. And the book has always gotten great reviews.

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Ribbon Pine Cone Ornaments – easy instructions!

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Years ago, when I didn’t have a lot of extra funds for gifts, I came across this pattern to make Christmas ornaments and boy did this ever save my sanity. I made scads for all the people on my list. Not only did they love them, but I saved a whole bunch of money and had a ball coming up with different designs using various colored ribbons, even adding fancy beads and sequins,

It’s a fun task and we got the whole family involved. Maybe you ‘d like to give it a try!!! There’s plenty of time before the big day…

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Materials:

3 meters #5 ribbon, cut into 2” long pieces

1 meter 3/8” to ½” ribbon for bow

10” of 1/8” ribbon for hanger

115 flat head pins

1 bead head pin

1 – 3” to 3 ½” Styrofoam egg

Craft Glue

Instructions:

  • Fold 5” ribbon into triangles 
  • At narrow end of egg, pin two triangles, seam side down, opposite each other so that the tips meet ¼” beyond the end of the egg. Use a pin in each corner.
  • Pin two more triangles opposite each other in the spaces between the first two, with points extending about ½” above the first two. These should form a point.
  • Pin two more triangles opposite each other in the spaces between the second two. (Down about ¼”)
  • Again, pin two more triangles opposite each other in the spaces between the third two.
  • Drop down about ¼” and place the next row with tips of triangles resting on the seams of the previous row. Continue in a circle around the egg.
  • Next row, drop down another ¼” again resting points of triangles on seams. Continue to alternate rows in this manner until the egg is completely covered.
  • Make a fluffy florist bow with 1 meter of the 3/3” ribbon.
  • Put bead head pin through the florist bow and both of the raw edges of the 1/8” hanger ribbon and attach to egg using a little glue.

*** My Heroine, Leilani in Loveable Christmas Angel would have been the heroine who might have enjoyed this pastime. She was a downhome kind of girl who had and Aunt in Hawaii desperate for her help.

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Christmas in Hawaii! How lucky can a girl get? Except Leilani is bringing her mother’s ashes home to Waikiki and has an urgent plea of help from an aunt she’s never even met. After winning two free nights in prestigious Hotel Jordan, things take a turn she never expected. First, she is stuck in an elevator with the prickly, but luscious Mr. Jordan. Secondly, her aunt is a sick woman and only held on for one reason. She wants to pass on her most precious possession… her five-year-old grandchild. The same prickly little fellow that takes one look at Leilani, slaps his fist on his hips and yells, “Go away!”

Kale is the owner of the Jordan Hotel Chain and he can’t believe his rotten luck. He broke up with a spoilt brat of a girlfriend and now he’s stuck in an elevator with a big-eyed, effusive tourist. How in the world can a guy who’s so worldly be hooked on a lively beauty with more dilemmas than anyone he’s ever met?

 

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