Balance in Life

My husband often asks me to balance my time. To prove his point he showed me an article about the value of balance. According to that article, most of our troubles are due to imbalances.

We should divide our day in such a way that we can balance work, family time, socializing, exercise, spiritual time, and fun time. If a person works eight hours a day, drives half an hour each way to work, breaks at lunch for an hour, exercises for an hour, and sleeps seven hours, this adds up to a total of eighteen hours. I assume the remaining six hours are used for family time, fun, socializing, and spiritual time.

I am not sure in which category I can fit cooking, dinner and dishwashing time. Reading should go under the hour or two of fun time. And what about writing?

I retired from my day job years ago and write full-time—or to be more accurate I sit in front of my computer full time. I can manage an hour to exercise or walk every day. I can cook twice a week and eat leftover or eat out the rest of the week, socialize two or three times a week. I consider this to be a perfectly balanced life.

Except… Around Christmas time, I deliberately put work aside. With the kids visiting it’s impossible to reach my computer, considering there are always a couple, or more teenagers sleeping in my office who can never sleep early or wake up early. So I graciously relinquish my work area and remain in the kitchen where I’ve already spent two weeks cooking, baking and preparing for the family gathering and a happy holiday. Call it family time, fun and socializing,

Yes a perfectly balanced life. Except on the two days I have to take care of the grandchildren, picking them from school, driving them to their various after-school activities and waiting for them, cooking and serving dinner—all of that goes under work and family time. Let’s not forget their adorable Cocker spaniel, Bosty, that I have to walk—call it exercise and fun.

Quite a balanced life. Except on the weeks where I have a deadline for a book and write nonstop to finish my story and edit, or format a multi-author box, or promote a new release… The eight hours of work morph into twelve or fourteen hours of non-paid overtime. Forget exercise, except running to the bathroom, forget family time, my husband swore that I become deaf during this period and never answer with cohesive sentences.

Considering there is so much I want to do, I’m still faced with the same problem of balancing my time.

I think balancing one’s time is wonderful. In theory. I always learned that to be successful you ought to give your main goal your 101%.  So how can you divide your time in multiple activities and still be successful?

Yet some people manage to multitask and be successful at everything they do. If you are one of these fortunate people, how do you do it?

Don’t forget to check our two new boxes:

Unforgettable Passion – Unforgettable Charmers (The Unforgettables Book 10)

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sweet and Sassy in the Snow: Find Your Winter Romance!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Enjoy the Modern Princes Series:

A Bride For Prince Paul: She can’t abandon her patients for his crown!
A Bodyguard For The Princess: A murder at Harvard in Princess Chloe’s student building.
Jingle With My Princess: The doc and the princess… He saves lives but Princess Charlene may save his heart.

Love, Christmas 2: JINGLE WITH MY PRINCESS by Mona Risk

JINGLE WITH MY PRINCESS, Mona Risk’s contribution to Love, Christmas 2, a very recent USA Today bestseller anthology.

   “Have you lost your mind, Amy? Calling your former boyfriend to Rensy Island,” Prince Paul bellowed, his menacing scowl reflecting the gloom of the day.
   “Chill out, Paul.” Amy shrugged and picked up a yellow bear from the carpeted floor of the Yellow Lounge Room. “I don’t care that he’s a former boyfriend. I’m seeking Scott’s help for our son.”
   Paul followed her to stand next to the portable crib where their toddler lay, playing with his blue blanket. “I’m sure we can find a better doctor in England.”
   “Dr. Pratt is an expert in neurosurgery. People come to him from everywhere. He’s the best doctor to perform such a difficult surgery on Eric.” How could she make her husband understand that his outburst didn’t make sense? “For heaven’s sake, Paul, I dumped Scott for you five years ago. Now two malignant tumors threaten our baby’s brain. Would you sacrifice him because of your blind jealousy?”

My readers met the protagonists of JINGLE WITH MY PRiNCESS in the first book of Modern Princes Series, A Bride for Prince Paul. Dr. Scott Pratt is the hero of the p

 

resent story. Now he’s struglling with a strong conflict:

   Should he go?
   He’d never refused to treat a patient, never rejected a desperate mother’s plea.
   Would he be able to greet Amy without pulling her into his arms to ply her with kisses? Or more likely to shake her in anger?
   Would he be able to face her husband without punching him for stealing his girlfriend?

JINGLE WITH MY PRINCESS: The doc and the princess… He saves lives. Can she save his heart?

In the summer of 2016, my husband and I took a fifteen-day cruise around the British Isles. Our first stop was in St. Peter Port, the capital of Guernsey Island, the largest of the Channels islands, located west of Normandy, France.

The guide explained that the residents of Guernsey speak English and French, don’t pay taxes (or pay very low taxes) and enjoy free medical care for children under seven and seniors over seventy. The island originally belonged to the Duke of Normandy and then alternatively to England and France. Now it is part of the British Commonwealth. The ruler is a governor and the constitution states that in case of problems the island would revert to England.

I loved the setting. My muse immediately replaced the governor with a prince, just like the rulers of Monaco or Luxemburg, both in Europe, and my imagination changed their constitution–the heir to the throne must be married. Guernsey Island became Rensy Island, the setting of the Modern Princes Series.

In the Movie Jingle All The Way, Arnold Schwarzenegger plays a detached parent trying to win back his son’s heart by getting him the perfect toy…which is sold-out throughout the city. When the son finally receives the toy, he gives it to the son of his father’s rival. All what he wants for himself is what he’s just gotten back—his father.

The movie makes fun of the consumerism of the holiday season and shows how ridiculous and crazy people can be when they get too obsessed with getting stuff for Christmas. It demonstrates how important it is to actually keep love and generosity ahead of material things and nasty feelings… As Dr. Scott  Pratt, my hero, will do with the help of Princess Charlene—the sister of Scott’s former rival, Prince Paul.

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