Changing Direction by Mona Risk

How do we act when life deals us a difficult blow? When obstacles stop us at every turn?

Often times we remained frozen in a place where moving becomes difficult or seems impossible. We focus on how we cannot do something versus how we can do something different.

Rather than being stuck in place, change direction and do something different.

As authors writing novels we call it a ‘turning point’.

In tennis championship they call it ‘momentum shift’.

I real life, we often make career shifts or life changes.

No one can predict if changes will be good or bad, but rather than being stuck in a hole that can get deeper why not try something else that can get us moving?

In my Women’s Fiction book ON MY OWN that is part of the anthology: INVINCIBLE, Strong and Fearless, the heroine Monica Roland changes directions three times in her life. These are changes requiring a lot of effort, and even support from people willing to give her a chance to move on and improve.

On Pre-Order: UNFORGETTABLE CHARMER

Bittersweet September #mgtab

Ah, September - quote by Peggy Toney HortonSeptember, with its summery days, but foggy mornings and chilly nights, is a bittersweet month for me.

It always feels like both a fresh start—no doubt because of all my years as a student—and an obvious, undeniable end of a season. This year the contrast seems extra poignant.

I’m about to launch a new story into the world, plus I’m excited and gearing up for new writing projects, yet other things that have kept me busy the past few months are slowing down.

My flowerbeds appear to be at the height of their glory, but a closer look reveals the beginning of their end, softening stalks, a gentle wilting, the slightest touches of brown on the edges and undersides of leaves. . . . The balmy air carries a cool undertone, and if a breeze kicks up, it has bite. The forest and grassy areas around my home hold the lightest scent of earthy dampness and decay. The toads are on the move. . . .

I’m excitedly anticipating the birth of my second grandbaby, who’s due any day—and my own wonderful grandma just turned 87. She’s healthy, strong and incredibly sharp minded, and I suspect and hope she’ll be a centenarian—but can’t help thinking about new beginnings and autumn seasons, all the same.

September 2017 Yellow Rose photoI’m looking forward to cozy fall nights and preparing my garden, yard, and freezer for winter—but I’m heavily conscious of all the folks across BC, the province of Canada where I live, still in danger from, or suffering the results of, the terrible, ravishing fires that blazed out of control all summer and are still burning. Likewise, I’m sad and worried for all the people in the south, fleeing, losing everything—or being afraid that they might—in the extreme flooding and/or hurricanes that have hit (and are continuing to hit) so hard.

Jodie Esch, an author friend of mine, finished a recent blog post with this observation, “during these precarious situations in the world, isn’t it time to take a few moments out of each day, to focus on the idea of love?”

It absolutely is—and not just in this season, but in every season, those that are bitter, those that are sweet, and those that are both simultaneously.

I hope wherever this September finds you, you are safe—or on your way to safety—and surrounded by love from friends, family, or pets, with a roof over your head to shelter you, enough food to sustain you, enough clothes to keep you warm, and enough books to keep you comforted and/or entertained.

Nice-nice

She’s such a nice person. I’ve often heard that sentence, followed by, “Can you do…”

It can be: can you watch the kids for another hour?

Can you prepare the coffee hour for the church?

Can you drive the neighbor?

Can you…can you…

Are you the nice-nice person who can’t say no?

Are you the shy one who ordered a medium done steak at the restaurant but received a well done and ate half of it silently because you can’t embarrass the waiter?

Are you the wife who gets dressed to go out for dinner, and then says, “Okay I’ll cook something” when dear Joe wants to watch that fantastic game on TV?

Are you the mom who’s always chosen to drive her daughter AND friends to the movies on Friday evening?

I used to be that nice-nice, silly-silly person.

And then I bought several books on how to be assertive and I practiced. And I learned to say, “This steak is so good, but I’m sure the lady in the next table would love it. I prefer my steak medium.”

Or , “Honey, I love it when you take me to that romantic place.”

Or, “The kids were so much fun last Friday. You wouldn’t want to miss their et-together.”

I learned to be assertive while sugarcoating my refusal.

Don’t you hate to be taken advantage of, just because you’re a nice, shy person?

How do you handle the situation?

Mona Risk is a New York Times and USA TODAY bestselling author of sweet–and not-so-sweet–romantic comedies. You can view all her books at www.monarisk.com or sign up for her newsletter. Her latest romance novel, HUSBAND FOR A WEEK is available at Amazon

NYTimes ML-HusbandForAWeek

Husband for a Week is a novella that made the New York Times and USA Today bestseller lists as part of Summer Fire Box.

Jonathan Ramirez values his law practice and doesn’t believe in commitment, especially not to Isabella Cantari, a sassy young woman, who seems to attract trouble wherever she goes. Sicilian vendetta, fake husband, and an irascible matchmaking grandmother complicate Jonathan and Isabella’s lives. Can love conquer all?