Fifty Ways to Love your Lover (and Friends)

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It’s Valentine’s Day, and all through the land, flowers are given and brunch is being cooked. But did you know that love can be shown every day and in little or large ways? The key is surprise and changing things up. Neuroscience has shown that humans get habituated fairly easily to both good and bad stimuli. For example, the first time you tasted a particular dish or dessert, you had a memorable moment of thinking it was the best ever. The next time you went back to that restaurant or cooked the dish or picked up the dessert, you wonder, did it change? Or it wasn’t the way I remembered. It’s the same with rewards and gifts, as well as things people do for you. Your first kiss? The first time a guy gave you a trinket? Going on a first date? Your first [fill in the blank]?

So, let’s change things up a bit this Valentine’s Day. We’ve come off a hard year of social isolation and the inevitable loneliness. If you have someone with you, count yourself lucky, but you don’t have to have a special someone to love someone else. Just send out some love and that itself is a sweet reward.

Here are fifty ways to show someone you love them.

  1. Say, “I love you.”
  2. Give a hug.
  3. Tuck a note saying “I love you,” in an unexpected place.
  4. Talk to him, and make sure you do a lot of listening. Paying attention is love.
  5. Respect his opinion, especially if it differs from yours.
  6. Go on a walk and don’t talk, just be together.
  7. Play a game: Checkers, backgammon, gin rummy, etc. where it’s the two of you only.
  8. Play with your pet together. Appreciate your pet and let them run back and forth between you.
  9. Cook together, or watch him cook or have him watch you. It feels more like love and less like a service when you’re interacting.
  10. Do an activity together you’ve been putting off.
  11. Trade backrubs and footrubs.
  12. Ask for his opinion on what you should wear before going out. Shows you value his observations.
  13. Form a book club of two. Agree to read the same book and discuss after finishing.
  14. Ask him if there’s something he wants you to do but hasn’t asked.
  15. Play a harmless prank on him. Good for laughs and retaliation.
  16. Take something off his “honey-do” list. Either do it yourself or hire someone.
  17. Show appreciation and tell him so.
  18. Surprise him with a gag gift–not socks or ties, but something funny.
  19. Find something he’s better at than others and tell him so.
  20. Declare a work-free day. No chores. No fixing things. No mowing grass.
  21. Join him on an activity he goes alone.
  22. Let him talk about his childhood without interjecting your own.
  23. Suggest he splurge on something you know he’s been secretly wanting.
  24. Play music together and do funny dances. Let him play his selection.
  25. Mix shampoos and conditioners together and come up with love potion names and blurbs for them.
  26. Exercise together or sit by and watch him exercise or vice versa.
  27. Invite his family to your celebration so no one will feel left out.
  28. Find a good trait about his mother and tell him how you appreciate her.
  29. Let him do things his way. If he ties the socks together instead of folding one into the other, let it be that way.
  30. Surprise him with his favorite dish or dessert.
  31. Let him sleep in or make sure you do not disturb him when he’s napping.
  32. Give him a stuffed animal to sit on his pillow. [Hey, it’s over 30 tips and I’m digging deep here].
  33. Collect a photo montage of his best moments and make a poster.
  34. Read him a passage from your favorite romance novel [I have over sixty, hint, hint]
  35. Ask him to make a muscle and admire how big it is.
  36. Give him a pedicure so his lethal toenails won’t snag you in bed.
  37. Shoot hoops with him.
  38. Stay up late and tell ghost stories, then go exploring in a dark barn.
  39. Go birdwatching and look for lucky birds–they all are. Hummingbirds, crows, bluejays, cardinals, and sparrows.
  40. Write him a love letter and tell specifically what you love about him.
  41. Go shopping with him for a his/her set of something. Be creative.
  42. Have a private karaoke night and sing love songs together.
  43. Cheerfully help him witht he yard work. Rake leaves while he mows.
  44. Hold hands while out for a walk in the park.
  45. Find strange places to take selfies together. Caption them.
  46. Play remember when. Write down separately and compare notes. You might be surprised when he doesn’t remember things the same way as you.
  47. Play spin the bottle. Hide in the closet for your kiss.
  48. Have a pillow fight.
  49. Take a drive out in the countryside with no where in mind. Top down if you have a convertible.
  50. Finally! Let him surprise you with an outing [no help from you or looking up directions].

I hope you found some ideas for a smashing Valentine’s Day. Please check out my three Valentine’s romances. If you listen to audiobooks, go to https://smarturl.it/ContactRachelle and request a free promocode [specify US or UK] for Valentine Hound Dog (sweet), Valentine Wedding Hound (sweet), or Going Hearts Over Heels [steamy]. – while promocodes last.

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And, another Valentine’s gift for you [Free ebook on Amazon, Feb 14-15], Going Hearts Over Heels. Ginger is a fast talking New Yorker who wants to try life in the country—along with hot country boys. Marsh yearns for the excitement of the big city and a certain redhead who has his imagination sparked. Ginger and Marsh decide to trade places over Valentine’s Day, except neither one expected their hearts to get in the way of their heels.

Going Hearts Over Heels (click to go to Amazon)

At Home by Mona Risk

Is it four weeks or six weeks that we have been locked at home? I can’t remember, but it seems like two years. Getting dressed, wearing a few pieces of jewelry, and fixing my hair are now nice memories. I stopped opening my closets. What for? My getting-dressed routine of the morning consists of choosing between two pajamas pants and a few black t-shirts–easier to wash it all together.

We live in a high-rise and we used to have a gorgeous view. Not anymore. In September, our building association had contracted a company for concrete restoration. So all balconies were blocked in September, the rails removed and the balconies’ floors repaired. And then the Pandemic started and the workers stopped coming. No rails, no balconies. No beach and no pool.

Who cares? For every problem, there’s a solution. Right?

Two weeks ago, I discovered that the catwalk, a walkway around the building used as an emergency exit, was still accessible, yet not used by anyone. A bit too high for my taste considering I suffer from ‘Acrophobia’ or irrational fear of heights. But in time of need, one would adjust to anything. At first I held my husband’s hand, and just looked at the floor, and then it got better…

The walkway became my walking track, with fresh outdoor air to breathe, no need to wear a mask, and a view to lift any mood. So now I walk four to five miles a day. Soon I’ll stop worrying about the extra weight I added at the beginning of our confinement. And I published a book, and started a new one.

Here is my new book, just released last week:

A Dance for Prince Eric: A ballerina with a promising career on the run for her brother’s sake. A charismatic prince who saved them both. Do fairytales exist?

I am also happy to share two new boxes, one with hilarious books and another with tender, emotional stories.

Sweet & Sassy Daddies

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Cute but Crazy

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Party on!

Yesterday, The Authors’ Billboard had the first of three (at least) Cabin Fever Quarantine Reading Party. I kicked off the event at one o’clock Pacific Daylight Time with kudos to all who volunteer to help others. Rule number one for a hostess: make your guest feel at home. Well, since so many folks are tired of being at home, I did my best to make our guests feel comfortable with what they’ve done for others.

Loads of free ebooks and audiobooks were given away outright, plus there were contests to #win some of the bigger prizes. It was fun finding out what everyone was wearing (mostly sweats, pajamas, yoga pants, and tee-shirts), finding companionship with people around the world with our dress and attitudes.

Did you miss out? No worries. FIRST, three of our WEDDING BOX SETS are still #FREE until Sunday, April 19. SECOND, we’re having Facebook Parties at ABB PARTY PLACE for the next two Fridays, plus we’ll be giving away different box sets. Here are the links for the sets available now. Sweet and Sassy Weddings, Sweet and Sassy Brides, and A Wedding She’ll Remember.

FREE BOX SETS! For a limited time.


Remember: set your Calendar/Alexa/Google Home reminders (or put a note on the refrigerator) to come to Facebook’s ABB PARTY PLACE at one o’clock Pacific Daylight Time (which is otherwise known as four o’clock Eastern Daylight Time). We’ll have more #Giveaways and Safe Social Distancing diversions for you with more of the authors from The Authors’ Billboard.

For giggles and guffaws, check out CUTE BUT CRAZY – WACKY, WONDERFUL WOMEN

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Friday the 13th -Lucky for me and you!

I was born on a Friday the 13th (June), and that day has always been lucky for me! Today it’s lucky for you – and it’s better for your eyes too!

In the world of technology, where we all have our noses stuck to television screens, computers, tablets, and cellphones, if you’re like me, your eyes need a rest. Generally, I am up by 5:30 every morning and on the computer within ten minutes of waking up. That’s after using the bathroom and pouring that first cup of coffee. Somedays, I am literally on my computer working for 12-15 hours.

So when I have a few hours off, the last thing I want to do is read because I need to give my eyes a break. It doesn’t help that I’m getting older and my eyesight is starting to change. The problem is, I used to read voraciously. I could read a 300-page book in several hours, and I used to read several books a week. Now I might read a book every other month.

What I have started doing is listening to audiobooks. I get a chance to relax my mind, enjoy a story, and clean my house, or cook something good in the kitchen. Sometimes, I just sit back and do nothing while I enjoy one!

I love audiobooks, and I know a lot of people are starting to enjoy them too. That’s why I am slowly having my books turned into audio productions! And this is where the fun begins!

I currently have several books in audio, and I’m going to give away 25 copies of several of them to you! All you have to do is look over the books on the sign-up form and pick your first and second choice. Then in a few days, I will send you a link and a code to download it for FREE from Audible.

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