Fifty Ways to Love your Lover (and Friends)

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It’s Valentine’s Day, and all through the land, flowers are given and brunch is being cooked. But did you know that love can be shown every day and in little or large ways? The key is surprise and changing things up. Neuroscience has shown that humans get habituated fairly easily to both good and bad stimuli. For example, the first time you tasted a particular dish or dessert, you had a memorable moment of thinking it was the best ever. The next time you went back to that restaurant or cooked the dish or picked up the dessert, you wonder, did it change? Or it wasn’t the way I remembered. It’s the same with rewards and gifts, as well as things people do for you. Your first kiss? The first time a guy gave you a trinket? Going on a first date? Your first [fill in the blank]?

So, let’s change things up a bit this Valentine’s Day. We’ve come off a hard year of social isolation and the inevitable loneliness. If you have someone with you, count yourself lucky, but you don’t have to have a special someone to love someone else. Just send out some love and that itself is a sweet reward.

Here are fifty ways to show someone you love them.

  1. Say, “I love you.”
  2. Give a hug.
  3. Tuck a note saying “I love you,” in an unexpected place.
  4. Talk to him, and make sure you do a lot of listening. Paying attention is love.
  5. Respect his opinion, especially if it differs from yours.
  6. Go on a walk and don’t talk, just be together.
  7. Play a game: Checkers, backgammon, gin rummy, etc. where it’s the two of you only.
  8. Play with your pet together. Appreciate your pet and let them run back and forth between you.
  9. Cook together, or watch him cook or have him watch you. It feels more like love and less like a service when you’re interacting.
  10. Do an activity together you’ve been putting off.
  11. Trade backrubs and footrubs.
  12. Ask for his opinion on what you should wear before going out. Shows you value his observations.
  13. Form a book club of two. Agree to read the same book and discuss after finishing.
  14. Ask him if there’s something he wants you to do but hasn’t asked.
  15. Play a harmless prank on him. Good for laughs and retaliation.
  16. Take something off his “honey-do” list. Either do it yourself or hire someone.
  17. Show appreciation and tell him so.
  18. Surprise him with a gag gift–not socks or ties, but something funny.
  19. Find something he’s better at than others and tell him so.
  20. Declare a work-free day. No chores. No fixing things. No mowing grass.
  21. Join him on an activity he goes alone.
  22. Let him talk about his childhood without interjecting your own.
  23. Suggest he splurge on something you know he’s been secretly wanting.
  24. Play music together and do funny dances. Let him play his selection.
  25. Mix shampoos and conditioners together and come up with love potion names and blurbs for them.
  26. Exercise together or sit by and watch him exercise or vice versa.
  27. Invite his family to your celebration so no one will feel left out.
  28. Find a good trait about his mother and tell him how you appreciate her.
  29. Let him do things his way. If he ties the socks together instead of folding one into the other, let it be that way.
  30. Surprise him with his favorite dish or dessert.
  31. Let him sleep in or make sure you do not disturb him when he’s napping.
  32. Give him a stuffed animal to sit on his pillow. [Hey, it’s over 30 tips and I’m digging deep here].
  33. Collect a photo montage of his best moments and make a poster.
  34. Read him a passage from your favorite romance novel [I have over sixty, hint, hint]
  35. Ask him to make a muscle and admire how big it is.
  36. Give him a pedicure so his lethal toenails won’t snag you in bed.
  37. Shoot hoops with him.
  38. Stay up late and tell ghost stories, then go exploring in a dark barn.
  39. Go birdwatching and look for lucky birds–they all are. Hummingbirds, crows, bluejays, cardinals, and sparrows.
  40. Write him a love letter and tell specifically what you love about him.
  41. Go shopping with him for a his/her set of something. Be creative.
  42. Have a private karaoke night and sing love songs together.
  43. Cheerfully help him witht he yard work. Rake leaves while he mows.
  44. Hold hands while out for a walk in the park.
  45. Find strange places to take selfies together. Caption them.
  46. Play remember when. Write down separately and compare notes. You might be surprised when he doesn’t remember things the same way as you.
  47. Play spin the bottle. Hide in the closet for your kiss.
  48. Have a pillow fight.
  49. Take a drive out in the countryside with no where in mind. Top down if you have a convertible.
  50. Finally! Let him surprise you with an outing [no help from you or looking up directions].

I hope you found some ideas for a smashing Valentine’s Day. Please check out my three Valentine’s romances. If you listen to audiobooks, go to https://smarturl.it/ContactRachelle and request a free promocode [specify US or UK] for Valentine Hound Dog (sweet), Valentine Wedding Hound (sweet), or Going Hearts Over Heels [steamy]. – while promocodes last.

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And, another Valentine’s gift for you [Free ebook on Amazon, Feb 14-15], Going Hearts Over Heels. Ginger is a fast talking New Yorker who wants to try life in the country—along with hot country boys. Marsh yearns for the excitement of the big city and a certain redhead who has his imagination sparked. Ginger and Marsh decide to trade places over Valentine’s Day, except neither one expected their hearts to get in the way of their heels.

Going Hearts Over Heels (click to go to Amazon)

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About Rachelle Ayala

Rachelle Ayala is a USA Today bestselling author of contemporary romance and romantic suspense. Her foremost goal is to take readers on a shared emotional journey with her characters as they grow and become more true to themselves. Rachelle believes in the power of love to overcome obstacles and feels that everyone should find love as often as possible, especially if it's within the pages of a book. Her book, Knowing Vera, won the 2015 Angie Ovation Award, A Father for Christmas garnered a 2015 Readers’ Favorite Gold Award, Christmas Stray received a 2016 Readers' Favorite Gold Award, and Playing for the Save got the 2017 Readers' Favorite Gold Award in Realistic Fiction. She is also a writing teacher and founder of the Romance In A Month writing community. She lives in California with her husband and has three children and two birds.

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